Job Searching: There Is No Map, But There Are Guides

Do you ever think you are lost in time, trying and trying to make something happen with no visible results? Do you need reassurance?

It may be reassuring to know there is a “characteristic shape” to transitions. First you have an ending (often with ensuing chaos). Then there’s a “neutral zone” where you feel frustrated and scared about not knowing where you’re going or how you’re going to get there. Then the new beginning comes out of the activities you engage in during this neutral zone, or what I call desert time.

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What is the ROI on Job Search Coaching?

Coaching has been my life's work for over 20 years.  I wish I could tell you a success rate, an acceleration rate or something measurable like that. But, like other coaches, I can't compare you to what would have been.

I can show you the value you will receive and give you a couple of things to compare it to.

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Networking Ethics (or Why Sales Often Won't Work in a Networking Environment)

please indulge me as this gets a bit deeper into networking than I (or anyone else I've studied yet, for that matter) typically goes. Almost everyone is familiar with some phrasing of The Golden Rule. It is most commonly written as "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you", and the idea is ancient. 

However, unless you have studied religion or philosophy, you may not know about the various formulations (alternative phrasings) of this rule, and it occurs to me they can help us better understand how to relate to others in our networking activities.

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Three Networking "Disconnects" and some corrections to them - Jeff Hexter

Lately, I've encountered some situations where I noticed some "disconnects from reality" regarding networking. I have sorted them into three broad categories, and I want to discuss each one. Those categories are:

1. "I hate networking..." or "I hate networking, but I like building relationships..."
2. I'm here to sell (or get a job, or meet an investor...) but no one here is buying (or hiring, or investing...)
3. Who am I to do a 1-2-1 meeting with?

What to do?

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